Tuesday, 12 June 2012

Being Mixed Race, Where Are You From Exactly?

Hey! This blog post is a follow up to my recent youtube video I uploaded x

This video really was just for fun, I think its great people are interested in where I'm from and it makes me laugh when they have no idea what my background is.

It's somewhat nice to know my facial features confuse the hell out of some people!

But in a sense having such a mixed background has been fun. I've been able to experience such different cultures and visit my family in different parts of the world.  

I think in a sense its weird that over the years more and more mixed race people are appearing , due to the fact of planes etc.

Honestly it wouldn't surprise me that in 200 years time we all end up the same colour. You can't be racist if you all look the same ;)

Racial Tension 

I've been blessed to never have experienced people being horrible to me because of my ethnicity. 

Only once when i was 7 I think, I boy told me to "go back to where you came from, you paki" to which i replied "I can't go home yet, my mums still at work"

Of course at that age I had no idea what he meant or what a "paki" was and I'm sure him being 7 as well must have just picked up that phrase from his family, and of course assuming anyone brown should be spoken to like that.

Accepting My Colour

Believe it or not, from a young age I have always wished i was a lighter colour. I think it must have been the fact that at school i was the "only brown girl" and it used to bother me a little bit. I used to ask my mum "mum how come your chocolate and daddy's white?"

When i was little i would have given anything to be a white, bright blued eyed blonde girl. 

I don't know why, in my family it was never mentioned that being brown was a bad thing, in fact being a different colour was like having different hair colours or eyes.


I had a boyfriend at 14, and i remember not being able to meet his friends of family. The reason being? "oh they don't really like people like you...."

Looking back at it, I was stupid to be okay with that?
But in my mind, that was a valid reason not to meet me.

If anyone ever uses your outward appearance as a negative thing towards you, then just cut them out of your life. They are just sad people who see life in one shade.

What about now?

Now I  embrace my colour. I really do. I don't have to go tanning because I'm afraid my legs will look too white in a dress, I can wear bright colours without worrying about looking like a ghost and I don't ever get sunburnt!

I honestly believe that as you get older, you become more comfortable in your own skin. 

Beauty come in all shape,sizes and shades. 

Whatever your background, colouring or ethnicity just embrace it! 


  1. gurl dis is beautiful, brought tears to ma eyeeeeeeeees

  2. such a great video :) and your post is amazing! you're so right and I'm of the same opinion!
    in btw your blog is amazing and I started to follow you, dear :)
    maybe you'll have a look on mine as well, if you like :))



  3. This is such a good post and personal :) I have a fairly mixed family background from Jamaican, Irish, Welsh and British. My mum has white skin and her sister my aunty has brown (same parents) and people use to think they were lying about being sisters. Now my aunty has the same thing with her children and people think they have different dads. I'm so pale and my brother tans so easily. As far as I'm concerned people should just worry about the 'goodness' of others not colour!

    Tanesha x

    1. exactly x

      I think people focus too much on outward appearance anyway

      Thanks for taking the time to read my post x

  4. This was such a great post. I'm mixed race as well: Spanish and Trinidadian so I get what you're saying and it really is annoying to be always asked where you're from.

    I remember one time a guy added me on Facebook, I didn't know who he was but I accepted it. We started talking and he eventually asked me the dreaded question "Where are from exactly?" When I responded Spanish (Venezuela) and Trinidadian. He said "Spanish women gross me out" and he deleted me.

    It annoyed me to know that there are so many ignorant people in the world today.

    1. Thank you so much, it means a lot! <3

      I know what you mean. But there are always going to be those ignorant people in the world who are just hypocritical at the same time you know?

      You don't like "dark people"?
      so why do you spend so much money on getting a tan?

      You don't like foreign food? so then why do you order Turkish/Indian/Chinese etc take away?

      Everyone is beautiful && your background is just part of what make you, you!

      Thank you for your comment xxx

  5. such a great post and you look lovely :) im also mixed, i always get the question where the hell is that place u from?

    My Dad is Sudanese-Egyptian, my grandpa is from north sudan w/ black skin tone, my grandma is egyptian with green eyes, golden hair and white skin tone, result is my father turned out to be brown. some of my aunts and uncles brown, some are black.

    My Mom is Partly Spanish and Filipina (Philippines), her grandfather is, so my mom have white skin and spanish features. i dont speak spanish, just few words..sadly :P

    Anyway im quite confused my self, i like how i look like but sometimes i was wondering which side shows more?..ye know.

    No One knows Sudan lolz and they think Egypt is in Middle East. Seriously. well arabs know where sudan and egypt is but the people in philippines..not all ><

    Btw thanks for visiting and leaving a comment on my blog ;) i followed ur blog :D

    ~aiMee/aMz, http://amz88.blogspot.com/ <3

  6. hay! im have trini too!
    and half hispanic lol
    im glad I found someone
    who shares very similar ethnicity mixture! :'D

  7. I'm so glad to see someone speaking with pride about their mixed heritage! This post rocks.
    My mum is Kenyan and dad's parents were from Ireland and Poland. You are so right about diversity within families meaning you have an understanding of more cultures.
    If only more people took the time to ask (politely) about a person's mixed background rather than making assumptions - I envy you for not having experienced much racism.
    On side note, does anyone else have to repeatedly answer the question, "What would you look like with your hair straightened?" This really bugs me for some reason.


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